It is a very great mistake to think you may receive an invitation to an entertainment or a wedding, and take no notice of it because you are going to accept it, and expect to be there, or because you do not expect to go. The compliment in any case deserves graceful acknowledgement.
High tea is an excellent form of entertainment for a small number of people, and is pleasantly followed by some such recreation as card-playing, or recitations and music. High tea is an elaborate tea, and is entirely different from the five o’clock tea, where the refreshments are light and simple, and do not take the place of a meal. High tea takes the form of a supper and affords a fine opportunity for the display of flowers, glass, china and silver. Tea, coffee or chocolate may be served.
It is not polite in conversing with a professional man or woman to assume that they are only interested in and conversant with a special subject, and that their own profession or something pertaining to it. A professional man is quite as likely to enjoy something that does not remind him of the routine of his own life.
It is very bad form to ask questions of persons who are obviously avoiding them. Some sensitive natures recoil from this intrusiveness, and suffer in a manner that would make an inquisitor blush for his own bad manners, if he but knew it.
Alice D. Bradford (1892, December). Etiquette notes. The Ladies World, Vol. XIII(12), 14. Retrieved from http://victoriantimes.us/etiquette/etiquette-notes-december-1892